I was ready. I was ready to forgive. I was ready to open my mind to the truth. I wasn't ready before. Now was the time.
This was the key? I've known since day one that my pain was related to what was happening in my life when it first appeared...everything in my life I knew to be true was turned upside down. Struggles and trials I wished on no one were in my life.....and I felt powerless.
The details are unimportant - my reaction WAS. (For those new to my blog, see on the side bar links to Chronic Pain, Nerve Damage, So What Happened To Me, etc. Basically, I was injured in 2005, had 3 back surgeries in 12 months and was left with diagnosed severe nerve damage and was finally given an implanted spinal cord stimulator (scs) kind of like a pacemaker for nerves...with a remote control.....and I buzz on the inside like a massage chair rather than feeling the full intensity of the searing nerve pain. I spent much of my time reclined...keeping the pressure off my S1 nerves.)
No matter what I did to help the situation, nothing changed. And being such a perfectionist and NOT wanting what WAS happening, I collapsed. In pain. More appropriately, denial. I went in to denial. My conscious mind was overwhelmed and I just collapsed.
However, from day one, I KNEW I would be healed. Despite my medical records, despite the very real MRI's and CT Scans that show what they show.....diagnosis of decimated nerves....despite the surgeons coming out and telling Andy "Holy moly, how was she even walking..."surgeries that filled my back with metal...and then spinal cord stimulation.....
My "high pain tolerance" that I used to be proud of? It was no friend of mine.
Then came the subject of social security disability. Every one told me to file for disability. Because I had only worked a few years after having been a stay at home mom (SAHM) for many years, I only had a certain amount of time to qualify. And we could really use the money. After years spent reclined, who wouldn't? I wouldn't. My thinking was, I would be telling the world I will NOT be healed. It would make it REAL.
Family and friends were perplexed, noticing it WAS real already. lol But I have this side of my personality...I call it tenaciousness....I had faith. Without it, I couldn't imagine where my mind might have gone. As you can only imagine, the experience of 24/7 burning/searing sensation is ..............something no one should experience.
4 weeks ago, I saw a book online and ordered it immediately:
Opening the Cage of Pain with EFT by Rue Anne Hass.
Having explored and used EFT (Tapping) in the past, I was very intrigued. EFT uses acupressure points on the face, neck, collarbone and hands to relieve issues. In this book, she states:
I started saying to myself quotes in this book:"I believe that chronic pain can emerge from years of hiding, holding back, caging or repressing our deepest self-expression. Chronic pain is the body's expression of emotional and spiritual pain. Pain gets our attention! It is calling us to free our deep spirit."
"Even though I get overwhelmed, but I swallow my real feelings, soldier on, and tough it out, I realize that is making me sick. I love and accept who I really am. I honor my deep inner strength, my truth and my goodness."~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
"Even though my heart feels heavy and tight and sad, I honor myself for how hard this has been, I understand and I even forgive myself. I was doing the best I could. I choose to love and appreciate this powerful, world changing soul quality I have been so blessed with."~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
So, it did not surprise me when I received an email from Barbara Rogers, the owner of Simply Divine Botanicals online asking to speak directly with me (she had seen my posts with my testimonials of her products).....she called an hour after receiving my number.
Her first question:
"Cheri, when will you be ready to forgive yourself?"
She explained what I already knew....that pain (lingering pain, not "just had an accident acute pain") stems from grief and shame. Pain comes in to our lives to give us a message.
I have ALWAYS believed this. ALWAYS.
I thought I HAD done all the forgiving needed. I forgave others involved. But guess what?
I had NOT forgiven myself.
I set about immediately to do so....meanwhile, she recommended these books:
The Game of Life and How to Play It by Florence Scovel Shinn
Heal Your Body A-Z by Louise Hay
In this book, it explains that
Low back pain: Fear of money, lack of financial support.
DING DING DING
For this, one should repeat: "I trust all the processes of life. All I need is always taken care of. I am safe."
Sciatica: Being hypocritical. Fear of money and the future.
For this, one should repeat: "I move into my greater good. My good is everywhere, and I am secure and safe."
See, at the exact moment of pain onset, I had started a new career, training new real estate agents to believe in themselves, be all they could be.....that the sky is the limit. Yet, I could not affect change in my own life. I could not convince family members to do the same. I felt like a hypocrite.
In the book Game of Life....it quotes Jesus and the Bible throughout. For example:
"Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it [are] the issues of life."
King James Version Proverbs 4:23
Pain served a purpose in my life.....it took me from being a mile a minute, hyper girl to someone who learned to be PRESENT. I had nothing else to do BUT learn to be present.
I consider the last 6 years to be a learning experience for me. I am such a different person. I value so much more. For one, I value my mobility.
Let me share with you some interesting things since the pain lifted 2 weeks ago:
The DAY of the phone call and my pain lifted, we were driving down the road my SCS remote beeped at me from my purse. It never does this. Long story short, it was BROKEN. I hadn't turned myself "up" for the day and now, no stimulation.
Well....if my pain is gone, I don't NEED stimulation, right? (Hello God, I see you....I feel you...you got my attention!!)
It is now 15 days and I have still not had my remote "fixed"....despite the promise of a 2 day turnaround. More proof the pain is gone, eh?
Andy and I have been walking together at the park....on a 2 mile trail....with hills and valleys.....and I got new tennis shoes that simulate sand and my hips/legs/calves are getting quite the workout.
We have gone down to the condo weight room and lifted weights. ME!!!!!! And I bounced out of bed the next day....no "recovery" period.
My greatest lessons so far:
Our thoughts are very powerful.
Our words are MORE powerful.
What we actually write? Becomes law in our life.
I am in the process of going back to all my profiles and changing what I wrote and I am watching how I refer t0 my situation. When something happens today that I wasn't expecting, I ask myself, "God, for what blessing has this occurred?"
I am whole. I am healed. I am forgiven.
I am now to go fulfill why I was put on this earth.........my intense learning session has completed and I will never be the same. I will forever grateful for this experience. I truly will. Onward now to learn what is next!
Starting now, I will use this story to help others.....and I can't wait.
P.S. The science behind our thoughts and illness is solid. I will be sharing a post soon showing more of the scientific background on this subject. Just as we can make ourselves ill we can heal ourselves as well. Dr. Caroline Leaf, a cognitive Neuroscientist, wrote the book, "Who Switched Off My Brain" which I read last summer. AMAZING. It IS scientifically proven......